Certainly one of my greatest personal interest is to list the qualities of a girl that
I would hope to be with. I hope she possess these qualities.
- First, she must possess both logic and emotion. It is important that she can let both
co-exist without impairing her abilities to think logically and feel emotionally.
- She must be self-relient and yet not be afraid to depend on other or express her fears.
She must be free to think and feel...
- Open mind for new and old ideas. Open heart to love all things beautiful and ugly, good
and evil, old and new, sadness and happiness, practical and imaginative. She mustn't be
prejudical or judgemental.
- Insatiable desire to learn, to grow, to feel, to refine, to explore, to deepen
understanding, to doubt, to be comforatable with paradoxes.
- To love me, yet retain her capacity to love everything else.
- Gentle -- to hope and not to demand. Subtle -- speak the language of moods, understand
wants and needs and fears that motivates actions and inactions.
- Good looking -- I hope.
Lastly, she mustn't be too defensive (e.g. about something she doesn't have) and too
self-critical (e.g. about something she is not). She must be completely comfortable with
herself and love herself unconditionally.
Yuan-chi "Bill" Chiu
December, 1996.